Carolyn Hax: What to do when every family member struggles at once?

The letter writer, "Struggling," is dealing with a multitude of stressful situations: her partner's PTSD, her college-aged daughter's deceitful behavior, and a suspicious lump in her breast. She feels overwhelmed and scared, unable to cope with the weight of these issues. The columnist, Carolyn, acknowledges the difficult situation and offers practical advice. She suggests focusing on manageable steps, such as seeking support for herself, finding a different doctor for the referral, and reminding herself that her daughter is an adult capable of making her own choices. Carolyn also emphasizes the importance of self-care practices like yoga, meditation, and deep breathing. The letter writer reveals that she has informed her partner about the lump and that he is supportive. However, she expresses feeling overwhelmed by her role as the "holder of everything together." Carolyn encourages her to consider the possibility that this situation might force others to step up and take on more responsibility, allowing her to focus on her own health. She suggests that this unraveling might be a necessary step for growth and reminds the reader to prioritize her well-being and seek support.